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• I'm a mom of two and divorced. I had to restart my life at almost 40. 
• My kids have different lifestyles between my house and their dad's. 
• I make a budget for them to spend on Father's Day buying things for their dad. 

Ever since my divorce, Father's Day has made me uncomfortable. I don't enjoy thinking about, celebrating, or spending my money on the person who broke our family apart.

Although it's been a few years since my ex initiated our divorce, it's been stressful co-parenting with someone who communicates differently and has different means to mine.

My tween son and daughter may experience lavish trips and vacations, tickets to pro soccer games, and barbecues with the other parent's family, but I can't forget how I felt before and after our divorce.

My kids want to celebrate Father's Day

I remember carrying groceries alone, planning and hosting birthday parties alone, changing every diaper, filing every lunch box, doing homework sessions, and tying every shoe tie. Back then, I gave the kids construction paper, crayons, and markers to make a Father's Day card, which we presented with glee.

Now, while I drive to the store so my kids can pick out a card and a gift for their father, I keep these bad memories to myself while I buy the card and the bow and wrap the gift.

During the divorce process, I forgot about how this holiday would feel. My kids will want to celebrate Father's Day regardless of how their parent's marriage ended, so I will fork out the money for their cheerfulness.

I do encourage the kids to get a card, like I used to for my own father. I stand there in the aisle, waiting patiently, until they choose a card they are delighted with, usually it is something humorous. I try to put my resentment aside when my kids brainstorm ideas about the special gift they want to get their dad.

I have a small budget to help them buy their dad a gift

I try to spend $50 or less for a Father's Day gift but every year is different. Post-divorce I've spent anywhere between $25 to $100 on a gift from my kids.

One time my kids wanted to fill a cooler with snacks their father liked. I sighed and rambled off a few snacks while my kids' piled chips and candy, hot sauce and jerky into the cooler. Their excitement is contagious though and I roll with it because it's really all about them and their kindheartedness is something I can help to nurture.

Another time it was a gift card to a favorite restaurant for chicken wings. This year, they wanted to customize a bobblehead doll that looked like their father.

Holidays look different now that I'm divorced

According to the decree my kids will spend Friday to Sunday with their father to celebrate Father's Day. It's important to have Father's Day and Mother's Day details in a divorce decree to limit stress and so everyone is on the same page for these special days.

All holidays look different now as a divorced parent, and what helps is finding ways to enjoy my own company when I'm without my kids on certain holidays.

This year while my kids spend time with their father, I will honor my own who passed away before my kids were born. As much as it hurts to miss him, I try to make it a day of joy and remembrance.

I'll go on a long walk and embrace the beauty on the trail and in new beginnings. I'll reflect on my childhood memories of my father, running together, bike rides, how much he cared about our dog and my dad's voice singing oldies songs on the porch.

Then I'll re-read the Father's Day card I sent my dad a year before he died. I was surprised to find the card and envelope in his car under papers on the backseat after he died.

• President Joe Biden is making a play for Nikki Haley's former supporters.
• Haley endorsed Trump, but urged the former president to appeal to her millions of voters. 
• A self-described centrist Republican Haley voter said he just can't support Donald Trump again.

This as-told-to essay is based on a conversation with Roger, who is affiliated with the Haley Voters Working Group. The group is comprised of former primary supporters of UN Ambassador Nikki Haley who are supporting President Joe Biden in the general election or considering supporting the president. He is only identified by his name due to the sensitivities of his continuing work on defense policy. We've also included a statement from Trump at the bottom of the story.

We are speaking to voters, officials, and others directly connected to politics this election cycle to get a first-person look at the stakes of this election. We fact-check their statements, vet our sources, and edit their responses for length and clarity.

I voted for former President Donald Trump twice. It's clear now that his behavior is one of the greatest threats to the Constitution we've ever seen. But for a few words in the 14th Amendment, he wouldn't even be eligible to be a candidate.

We're seeing it in real time. I don't want to be a part of that. We are not an autocracy. I don't know if I can vote for Joe Biden. And yes, his age is a legitimate concern. Father Time is undefeated. But if I've got a choice between an autocrat and someone of his age, I'm not choosing the autocrat. No, sir, no, thank you.

Trump started losing me when he started the shenanigans after he lost the 2020 election. All that weird stuff leading up to January 6. And if it hadn't been for Vice President Mike Pence, who is a great man, we would have been at a constitutional crossroads.

The former president will say anything, and he'll do it with a straight face. He reminds me of PT Barnum; there's a sucker born every minute. You just have to do your research. He's done tremendous damage to himself. Not once has he accepted any accountability for the messes he's gotten himself into.

Trump's a convicted felon now, though I thought the New York case was definitely the weakest one against him. Honestly, having handled classified documents in my military career, I looked at the list of things they found in the pool house and by the toilet. I was like, my goodness, he's in a heap of trouble here. You can't explain that away. He had multiple opportunities to gracefully return those documents.

Trump's treatment of Nikki Haley made it even worse.

I don't like how Trump treated Nikki Haley. The name-calling, what he said about her husband when he was deployed. My goodness, he never finds the high ground. She's one of the smartest people you'll come around who understands all of these issues. But she doesn't play to the left; MAGA hates her.

It was a stung when she endorsed him. I had to give it a little bit of reflection. I've watched the video several times. She has to remain politically viable moving forward. She is fundamentally a Republican. In the big picture, she never pretended that she was anything else. And she said that it was her personal choice. She gave the caveat in there that she encouraged him to reach out to his voters. In retrospect, he's had all this time to reach out to the over 4 million Haley voters. He's never done it. The Biden campaign actually has.

I never liked Trump's tone and the way he behaved, but I did vote for him because I thought he was right about the border. His fiscal policies were mostly sound. The border is a real issue. There's many of us that believe that this issue began back in January 2021 after President Biden was sworn in, because he turned around and canceled all of Trump's executive orders and policies. You have to understand the bigger picture here. The effect of flooding in these undocumented immigrants brings the border to New York City, Chicago, Detroit, and Atlanta. It brings the border everywhere because we are not vetting these people.

I'm an old-school Reagan fan, and Nikki Haley is a genuine Republican. She understands the importance of Ukraine. She understands the importance of how we project our foreign policy. An, if you think about it, there's a lot of crossover there that the current administration is trying to do. Trump being elected would be a disaster for Ukraine. Forty-six Republicans voted against funding NATO — that scares the devil out of me. It's like no one is paying attention to the things that are really important. We want democracy, we want liberty, and we want freedom to flourish, because that's what true American values are. We don't want to send American troops to fight over there.

Serving in the military had a profound effect on my life.

I met my wife during my first tour in Korea. We've been married 35 years now. The military is a microcosm of our society as a whole. Growing up in rural South Carolina, I learned a lot about people by working beside them. It gets you away from a myotic way of thinking. One of my assignments took me to the DMZ. You come face-to-face with North Korea. You see them living in the past. They come out in these old woolen Soviet uniforms. It's very stark there. You sort of understand the dangers in the world.

After Russia invaded Ukraine, it got me. You look on a map, you can tell what the stakes are. There's nothing good coming from Russian aggression. And so that's what drew me into being involved, adding my voice and perspective to the mix.

In response to Roger's comments, Trump spokesperson Steven Cheung sent the following statement to Business Insider: "President Trump dominated the primary in record-breaking fashion and it wasn't even close. Voters know that President Trump is the only person who will beat Joe Biden and take back the White House. It was revealed that investigators in that case likely engaged in evidence tampering and mishandling of those documents, which is why a filing was made earlier this week to dismiss the case. Joe Biden being elected again would be a disaster for America. President Trump will put America First instead of getting into more wars and more conflict like Biden has done." (Editor's note: Special counsel Jack Smith's team has said the order of documents taken from Mar-a-Lago during the classified documents probe may have shifted from when FBI agents originally seized the material.)

• Patrick Synge fired one of his employees for secretly working a second remote job while on the clock.
• He shared how he caught the employee and why he decided to fire them. 
• He says overemployment is sometimes "unethical" and can hurt worker productivity. 

This as-told-to essay is based on an email conversation with Patrick Synge, the cofounder and chief commercial officer of the business-process-outsourcing and remote-recruitment company Metrickal. The business is headquartered in Barcelona and has 10 full time, fully remote employees, in addition to more than 200 contractors worldwide. The following has been edited for length and clarity.

I'm the cofounder and CCO of a business where every employee works fully remotely. In January, I caught one of them secretly working a second full-time remote job.

Here's how it all played out — and why I decided to fire them.

My business is headquartered in Barcelona, but one of my employees was based in Peru. He was hired in 2022, and in the beginning, he did his job very well. But then, I started to receive complaints from clients about missed assignments and deadlines. He had also become quite unresponsive. These complaints from clients started to become somewhat regular.

When this employee started refusing certain shifts he usually worked, I became suspicious. I had a feeling that he was doing something on the side, but because there was no proof, I didn't want to jump to any conclusions.

So instead, I had one-on-one meetings with him to discuss his job performance. When the same issues continued, I told him that if things didn't change, I'd have to let him go.

While he showed some signs of improvement, his overall performance didn't change much. This put a significant burden on the rest of the team, who had to cover his shifts and deal with missed deadlines.

How I ultimately caught him

In December, unrelated to this particular employee, my company rolled out the time-tracking software called DeskTime.

My long-term goal is to introduce a four-day workweek at my company, and I decided the first step in this process would be understanding how my employees spend their time and what could be optimized to boost productivity.

So our entire team of full-time employees and freelance contractors started using DeskTime. They each had to install the app on their computers, so everyone was well aware that this was being implemented.

After a few weeks, I looked through the tracking data of the struggling employee and noticed there was another company's name — a US business — that regularly appeared in the data. It became clear to me that this employee had worked on some other company's tasks.

I fired them the next day.

The DeskTime data showed that the employee was using software during the workday that was unrelated to his job tasks. It also included a screenshot feature that captured his computer screen — and showed him working on a platform where the other company's name was visible.

Based on the DeskTime data, I estimate that he had spent close to half of his work time working for this other company. It seems that he forgot about the tracking software since once it's downloaded, it doesn't require any manual switching on and off.

To be honest, all the other signs — missed deadlines, lack of flexibility, and unresponsiveness at certain times — had already made me quite certain that he was doing something else during working hours. I would have probably fired him anyway, but the tracked data was the missing hard proof.

I believe he was working for the other company full time because soon after I fired him, he updated his LinkedIn profile to reflect that he was working full time at the other company.

Why I think overemployment is sometimes unethical

I know some people may judge me, but I generally don't support the trend of overemployment. I think it's sometimes unethical and just wrong.

First of all, I don't think it's fair to the rest of the team who have to cover up for someone else's low performance. This is why keeping this employee of mine in the company wasn't an option. He wasn't fair and respectful to the team, and that's something I can't tolerate — his actions were just selfish.

Secondly, I don't believe a person can productively do two jobs at the same time, even if you use AI or other tools. Their attention will be scattered, so the quality of their work will suffer. As an entrepreneur, I have to think about my business and clients first. I can't afford to lose clients because someone wants to make extra money.

I really don't mind people having side hustles to earn extra income. But this should be something they do on their own time and that doesn't affect the quality of their day job.

Are you working multiple remote jobs at the same time and willing to provide details about your pay and schedule? Has a coworker or employee of yours done so? If so, reach out to this reporter at jzinkula@businessinsider.com.

Correction: June 13, 2024 — An earlier version of this story misstated Patrick Synge's role at Metrickal. He's the chief commercial officer, not the CEO.

• Learning to ask AI the right questions is important for young consultants, McKinsey exec says.
• The McKinsey exec told one intern to learn to be a great 'prompt engineer.'
• McKinsey said last year that AI is making consultants more efficient, saving 30% of their time.

Standing out in a summer internship these days boils down to one thing — learning to talk to AI.

At least, that's the advice McKinsey's chief client officer, Liz Hilton Segel, gave one eager intern at the firm.

"My advice to her was to be an outstanding prompt engineer," Hilton Segel told The Wall Street Journal.

McKinsey is among a handful of top consulting firms capitalizing on the generative AI frenzy. Its record $16 billion in revenue last year came, in part, from new work relating to the technology.

The firm has also launched its own in-house generative AI tools, including Lilli, named after Lillian Dombrowski, the first woman employed by McKinsey in professional services.

Lilli's purpose is to aggregate the firm's knowledge and capabilities so that employees can spend more time engaging with clients, Erik Roth, a senior partner at McKinsey who oversaw Lili's development, said last year in a press release announcing the tool.

Tools like Lilli allow employees to cut down on busy work if they learn to prompt — the process of eliciting information from these tools — and focus their skills on higher-value tasks.

Roth said at the firm's media day last month that 72% of consultants now use Lilli.

"We've answered over 3 million prompts and add about 120,000 prompts per week," he said. "We are saving on average up to 30% of a consultants' time that they can reallocate to spend more time with their clients instead of spending more time analyzing things."

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Happy Friday and a happy start to the UEFA Euro 2024 tournament! It's best to wrap up any work you have with European colleagues before they disappear to the pub for the next few weeks.

In today's big story, we're looking at how Saudi Arabia is courting Chinese investors for help with its massive, futuristic city facing financial issues.

What's on deck:

• Markets: A 31-year-old investor just got backing from Millennium Management.
• Tech: Leaked audio reveals Oracle execs' plans to exit the ad business.
• Business: An NYC luxury developer went on a $3 billion real-estate buying spree. Now his empire is showing cracks.

But first, a city on the brink.

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The big story

Saudi Arabia needs backup

Saudi Arabia's dreams of a futuristic city are turning into a financial nightmare, and one of its solutions could spell trouble for the US.

Since 2017, the Kingdom has touted big plans for the desert megacity Neom. The project is the centerpiece of Crown Prince Mohammed bin Salman's Vision 2030, which hopes to reduce the economy's reliance on fossil fuels.

Neom's planned features are eye-popping, to say the least. There's the world's longest infinity pool, a year-round ski resort, and a mixed-reality theme park. And The Line — a city built between two massive, mirrored skyscrapers — looks straight out of a sci-fi movie.

But all these fancy things don't come cheap. Some estimates for Neom have ballooned up to $1.5 trillion. And while the Kingdom was initially confident foreign investment would help foot the bill, that hasn't been the case.

Now Saudi Arabia is turning to another country with economic headaches: China. The Kingdom hopes China will invest billions in the project, which could deepen ties between the two countries. That's a troubling potential future for the US, Business Insider's Tom Porter writes.

China's interest in Neom could be from multiple angles.

The city plans to heavily use renewable energy, a key area of focus for China as it digs itself out of its economic hole.

But other opportunities for China in Neom are more troubling.

While Neom is being pitched as a "smart city" that collects data on residents, experts previously told BI it could really be part of a massive surveillance program powered by Chinese technology.

China has already been clear that its AI strategy is to shape reality and enforce its power. That type of authoritarian vision is something it shares with Saudi Arabia.

That poses a risk for the US, which needs all the allies it can get in the Middle East as it navigates the war in Gaza.

Still, the Kingdom is running out of options. Saudi Arabia has reportedly already started borrowing to cover costs. And the Crown Prince is also reportedly ready to start having "tough conversations" about the project.

3 things in markets

1. The US dollar is losing its status among the world's central banks. The dollar is still king among central banks' forex reserves. However, its market share has dropped from 70% in 2000 to 55% in the last quarter of 2023, according to data from the International Monetary Fund.
2. A Coatue rising star got a big endorsement from a massive hedge fund. Aaron Weiner's new fund is being seeded by the $68 billion multistrategy giant with a multibillion-dollar check, according to people familiar with the matter. Weiner is Coatue's head of tactical solutions and is set to leave the firm at the end of the year.
3. Another stock could join the trillion-dollar club soon. Broadcom's stock is surging after it posted estimate-beating earnings and announced a 10-to-1 stock split. And Bank of America predicts even greater potential: hitting trillion-dollar market capitalization.

3 things in tech

1. Apple has an AI secret weapon. Although it's not an AI frontrunner, Apple's vast user reach has made it extremely attractive to the leading AI companies who all want to tap into that base. The tech giant's recent deal with OpenAI illustrates just how much power Apple wields.
2. Oracle execs detail plans to exit the ad business. In a leaked recording, executives said the transition will happen in phases, but that there's no "catch-all date" for the move. Another said they'd try to find roles elsewhere in the company for affected employees.
3. Amazon's secret workaround for AI training data. Amazon told employees to sign up for Microsoft's GitHub platform and share their accounts so it could scrape AI training data faster, BI has learned. Account limitations mean collecting data with normal methods would take too long, per the leaked memo.

3 things in business

1. Three layoffs, 200 job apps, no dice. After being laid off from three consecutive corporate jobs, Giovanna Ventola applied to 180 similar roles and 18 minimum-wage "bridge jobs" — but didn't land a single one. She says the experience "completely changed" her outlook on the job market.
2. NYC luxury developer Michael Shvo is facing some challenges. Shvo made a name for himself first as a broker, then as a developer of glitzy projects. But a soft real estate market and a trail of angry business partners and customers are threatening to thwart his big plans.
3. It's official: Musk's pay package is approved. After it was voided by a judge in January, Tesla investors sealed the deal on Musk's $55 billion pay plan (here's how it compares to other CEOs'). But he isn't out of the woods just yet — Tesla must now take it back to court.

In other news

• AI is set to take over advertising's biggest event of the year — and perhaps the industry itself.
• Millennials think Gen Z is lazy — but secretly wish they could say 'no' too.
• Exclusive: 20VC podcast host and investor Harry Stebbings is raising a massive new fund targeting tech startups.
• Scientists share one easy swap you can start doing today that could help you live longer.
• Disney's feud with DeSantis is over — and it's donating to Republicans again.

What's happening today

• Bonnaroo Music and Arts Festival begins, with Post Malone headlining.
• Sentencing for Jose Uribe, a businessman who pleaded guilty to bribing Sen. Bob Menendez.

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• Warning: Spoilers ahead for the first six episodes of "Perfect Match" season two.
• In the new season, "Love Is Blind" alum Micah Lussier couples up with "Dated & Related" star Kaz Bishop.
• Here's an update on their on their relationship. 

Micah Lussier and Kaz Bishop's relationship seems to be over after the latest batch of "Perfect Match" episodes.

Lussier is on her second attempt at a reality TV romance after trying and failing to find a husband on Netflix's most popular reality show, "Love Is Blind."

She appears in the latest season of "Perfect Match," a Netflix crossover series in which fan favorites from other shows compete and date to find their partner.

In episode two, Lussier pairs up with "Dated & Related" alum Kaz Bishop, and the pair wins two couples' challenges in the season.

But their relationship is constantly tested in the second half of the series. First Bishop is sent on a date with Holly Scarfone, who previously starred in "Too Hot To Handle" season three.

When Bishop returns, he struggles to decide who to pick between Scarfone and Lussier. Lussier gets angry about this situation and calls Bishop a liar. They make up in episode seven and match together again.

However, later in the episode, Lussier and Bishop are caught in another fight after he starts to chat with another new contestant, Brittan Byrd.

In this case, Byrd and the other contestants start the argument by saying that Bishop is unfaithful to Lussier and wants to marry someone else. Bishop tells off the group for spreading lies about him behind their back.

Bishop and Lussier overcome this obstacle but end up in a third argument in episode nine. Lussier is angry with Bishop this time for talking to a third new contestant, Christine Obanor, and kissing Scarfone in a game. Bishop is annoyed that Lussier has told other contestants that they are the weakest couple.

The pair have a screaming match and finally break up. Bishop matches up with Obanor, and Lussier pairs up with Izzy Zapata.

It seems their relationship is officially over, but we will find out if they come back together in the season finale, which airs on Netflix on June 21.

Regardless, here are the other clues that the couple probably isn't together anymore.

Micah Lussier has posted on social media about other dates

Netflix reality series are often filmed months or even years before they premiere. This means that contestants often do not post anything about their relationships from the reality show or new relationships until after the series has aired.

While we do not know exactly when "Perfect Match" season two was filmed, it was likely before the fall of 2023, when some contestants had other TV commitments.

Since September 2023, Lussier has shared three TikTok posts about going on new dates. In the first post shared on September 16, 2023, Lussier shows the man she is dating, and he doesn't look anything like Bishop.

Lussier has not confirmed that she has a new partner, but the fact that she is dating other people means her romance with Bishop probably didn't work out.

Correction: June 7, 2024 — An earlier version of this story mischaracterized Micah Lussier's appearances on "Love is Blind." She was a contestant in one season, not two.

• Harry Jowsey and Jessica Vestal are one of the most consistent couples in "Perfect Match" season two.
• Fans and the media previously speculated that the pair dated in 2023.
• Here's what we know about their relationship on the show and whether they are still together.

Warning: Spoilers ahead for the first six episodes of "Perfect Match" season two.

Netflix reality star Harry Jowsey may have ruined his relationship with "Love Is Blind" fan-favorite cast member Jessica Vestal after the latest episodes of "Perfect Match" season two.

We don't know for sure what happened next — but it seems pretty unlikely they made it as a couple.

In season two, stars from "Squid Game: The Challenge," "Love Is Blind" and other shows date each other to find their perfect match.

The series gives Netflix the opportunity to give fan-favorite reality contestants more screen time while promoting their lesser-known shows like as "The Trust: A Game of Greed" and "Dated & Related."

In season two, Jowsey, who has a reputation for being a player, arrives in the house and says he is ready to settle down in a serious relationship.

His costars are doubtful, but he perseveres, and in episode three, he couples up with Vestal, who starred in the latest season of "Love Is Blind."

The pair fight in episodes three and five when Vestal questions Jowsey's honesty after she hears negative comments from other contestants. But Vestal sticks by Jowsey.

Their relationship gets messy in episode eight, when the male contestants go on a trip away from their partners and meet a group of female contestants.

Jowsey is caught in a cheating scandal after Melinda Berry accuses him of kissing her off-camera. Jowsey denies the kisses, but Holly Scarfone says she saw it.

When all the contestants get back to the house, Berry tells Vestal, and Vestal is unsure of who to believe. The episode ends before Vestal makes her decision.

Fans will have to wait until the season two finale airs on Netflix on June 21, but here are the clues that the couple are not together.

Vestal and Jowsey were photographed together in Mexico last year

Before "Perfect Match" aired fans were already speculating whether Jowsey and Vestal were dating.

In March, TMZ and PageSix published pictures of Jowsey and Vestal kissing that they claim were taken in June 2023 in Tulum, Mexico.

However, these photographs may have been taken while the cast was filming "Perfect Match" season two since the series was filmed in Tulum.

Jowsey confirmed on the latest episode of his podcast, "Boyfriend Material with Harry Jowsey," that the series was filmed in the summer of 2023.

Vestal implied she was single in March.

In March of this year, Vestal seemed to push back on the idea that she was dating someone.

She posted a TikTok, captioning it: "Trust, y'all will know when someone has wifed me up. Let's focus on the ones who actually might be."

It isn't as definitive as "I'm not in a relationship," but certainly points to an ongoing relationship with Jowsey being unlikely.

In February, Vestal also spoke about another possible non-Jowsey romance.

She said on the "Viall Files" podcast that she was attracted to a costar from "Love Is Blind" season six.

"I had another strong connection there," Vestal said. "I can't say any names because I'm still trying to sort some things out."

Jowsey said he broke up with a secret girlfriend last year.

In the fall of 2023, Jowsey partnered up with professional dancer Rylee Arnold to compete in "Dancing With The Stars" season 32.

However, fans began speculating that the dancing partners were dating after seeing their chemistry and reading reports that they spent Thanksgiving together.

Jowsey shut down the rumors at the time, telling Business Insider in November: "I try and ignore it all because I just want to focus on the dancing. If I get distracted with dating stuff and all that stuff, then I'm probably not going to be a good dancer."

In April, Jowsey said on his podcast, "Boyfriend Material with Harry Jowsey," that he was actually in a secret relationship during the filming of "Dancing With the Stars."

"All those edits kind of brought me and my girlfriend at the time apart," Jowsey said, referring to TikTok videos that elevated the dating rumors about him and Arnold.

This secret girlfriend could have been Vestal since Jowsey never reveals the woman's name in the video. But we don't know — and in any case it was over by the time he mentioned it.

"I was madly in love with this girl," Jowsey said. "It was probably just infatuation, but I thought it was love. Obviously, it ended up ending, and it fizzled out because it's so difficult to see your boyfriend or girlfriend on 'Dancing with the Stars' being that close with someone else."

Jowsey credited the secret girlfriend for keeping him steady during his sudden rise in fame until they eventually broke up.

Vestal calls Jowsey a red flag in TikTok videos

Throughout "Perfect Match," Vestal's costars warned her of Jowsey's poor dating history. However, Vestal ignores them and continues to date him.

After the first episodes of "Perfect Match" aired last week, Vestal also began calling Jowsey a "red flag" on TikTok which seems to imply that they are no longer dating.

On Monday, she posted a video with the caption: "When the entire house is telling you that your match is the world's largest red flag but you gotta see it through."

On Sunday, she appeared in another video shared by her "Perfect Match" costar, Micah Lussier, about their partners on the show.

"When everyone warned you about your man, but you're a lover girl at heart, so you're gonna stick beside him against your better judgment," Lussier captioned the post.

Jowsey meanwhile commented on his relationship with Vestal after the show aired on the latest episode of his podcast.

However, he had nothing but good things to say about her and even said she was "the love of my life."

"I thought that Jess was the most incredible most beautiful woman that I've ever seen in my life," he said.

Jowsey and Vestal are not following each other on Instagram

The biggest clue that they're not together is that Jowsey and Vestal don't follow each other on Instagram.

Jowsey has shared videos and pictures of their time together on the show, but Business Insider has checked and he doesn't follow Vestal. In fact, Jowsey only follows some of his male costars from the show.

Vestal follows most of her male and female costars but not Jowsey.

This could be an attempt to misdirect fans, but they are more likely no longer dating.

Fans will find out the truth when the "Perfect Match" season finale premieres on Netflix on June 21.

• "Yoga Teacher Killer" is about Kaitlin Armstrong, who murdered her boyfriend's lover,  Anna Moriah Wilson.
• Armstrong shot Wilson dead in May 2022.
• Armstrong fled to Costa Rica and evaded the authorities for a month before being caught.

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"Yoga Teacher Killer: The Kaitlin Armstrong Story" is based on a murder that happened in May 2022 in Austin, Texas.

The true crime drama tells of how yoga teacher Armstrong (Caity Lotz) discovered that her boyfriend, Colin Strickland (Kyle Schmid), was having an affair with pro-cyclist Anna Moriah Wilson (Larissa Dias).

On May 11 2022, Wilson went to dinner with Strickland in Austin, Texas, before dropping her back to a friend's apartment where she was staying.

After Stickland left, Armstrong arrived at the property and shot Wilson twice in the head and once in the heart in revenge for the affair, assistant district attorney Rick Jones told the court during Armstrong's trial, The Independent reported in 2023.

Police questioned Armstrong three days after Wilson was shot, but she wasn't arrested at the time. She evaded the authorities by flying to Costa Rica using her sister's passport.

There, she had plastic surgery in San Jose to change her appearance and spent 43 days on the run. The task force that traveled to Costa Rica to search for Armstrong spoke to CBS in 2024 about finding her, and Deputy Marshal Damien Fernandez recalled being told by locals it would be difficult.

"I think from the get-go we were told … you're gonna be in for a surprise 'cause a lot of the women in Santa Teresa look just like Kaitlin — a lot of them," he said, referring to the tourists that the town attracts.

According to a 2022 press release from the US Marshals Service, Armstrong was eventually arrested on June 29, 2022at a Santa Teresa Beach hostel in Provincia de Puntarenas, Costa Rica.

Deputy Marshals told CBS that they caught Armstrong by putting out an advert for a yoga teacher near the hostel. She responded and was apprehended before being extradited to Texas.

Armstrong was sentenced to 90 years in prison

On November 17, 2022, Amstrong was found guilty of first-degree murder and sentenced to 90 years in prison for killing Wilson. She did not testify during the proceedings, ABC News reported. Armstrong will be eligible for parole after 30 years in 2052.

Following the verdict, Karen Wilson, the victim's mother, addressed Armstrong in court, The Independent reported.

"Kaitlin Armstrong. I'm not sure that my words can penetrate your heart but I'm gonna try. I hate what you did to my beautiful daughter it was very selfish and cowardly.

Referring to Wilson's brother and father, she said: "When you shot Moriah in the heart, you shot me in my heart. You shot Eric and Matt in the heart… You shot cousins and aunts and uncles and all the people who loved her, there in their hearts."

According to the Texas Department of Criminal Justice, Armstrong is currently serving her sentence at the Dr. Lane Murray Unit in Gainesville, Texas.

• Elon Musk said Tesla could be worth $30 trillion one day, and Donald Trump is a Cybertruck fan.
• The Tesla CEO compared cutting costs to washing dishes, and floated an AWS-style cloud business.
• Here's a roundup of Musk's 12 best quotes from the EV maker's annual meeting on Thursday.

Elon Musk proclaimed that Tesla could be worth $30 trillion, compared cost cutting to washing the dishes, and revealed Donald Trump calls him randomly and loves the Cybertruck.

The Tesla CEO spoke at his company's annual meeting in Austin on Thursday. Musk thanked shareholders for approving his controversial $56 billion pay package, and suggested Tesla could emulate Amazon's cloud-computing business.

He also predicted robot companions would become the default, and flagged challenges such as rising US-China tensions and a tougher electric vehicle market.

Here are Musk's 12 best quotes, lightly edited for length and clarity:

1. "I just wanted to start off by saying: Hot damn, I love you guys." (Musk was thanking his shareholders for voting in favor of his contested pay package once valued at about $55 billion.)
2. "I guess I've been pathologically optimistic from birth. If I wasn't optimistic, this factory wouldn't exist."
3. "I think it's actually conceivable, it's within the realm of possibility, for Tesla to achieve a valuation 10 times that of the most valuable company today." (Musk's comment implied a $30 trillion valuation — or 10 times the market value of Apple.)

4. "It's actually pretty wild we have a giant car factory in the San Francisco Bay Area. It's not exactly the cheapest place to have a car factory. It's like that and the Swiss Alps or something."

   

5. "It is a hard problem. I have to say there's quite a lot of brain damage required to be good at cell manufacturing — it's like a brain damage high."
6. "Amazon Web Services became more valuable than the entire rest of Amazon. I think there's some kind of opportunity there that's pretty significant for Tesla down the road. Nobody's really factoring that in." (Musk was envisioning renting out the spare computing power from a fleet of 100 million Tesla vehicles.)
7. "It is getting a little crazy these days. To first approximation, the probability that a homicidal maniac will try to kill you is proportionate to how many homicidal maniacs hear your name. So they hear my name a lot — I'm like, okay, I'm on the list. Think of John Lennon who was singing about, 'Hey, can't we all just be nice to each other,' and then he got shot by one of his fans. Like, okay, we'll try to avoid that."

8. "I have had some conversations with him and he does call me out of the blue for no reason. A lot of his friends now have Teslas and they all love it, and he's a huge fan of the Cybertruck." (Musk was discussing his contact with Donald Trump.)

   

9. "It's tough sledding out there for EVs. Almost every manufacturer has announced reductions in their electric vehicle plans. Now Tesla, we're going to increase, but it is not an easy market."
10. "There's enough lithium refining if you count China. If there's a geopolitical challenge on that front, then there may be a shortage of lithium. I think it's pretty important to be careful with geopolitical risk and just make sure that in a worst-case situation that Tesla is okay." (Musk on Tesla's plans to scale up its lithium refining.)
11. "I really would describe making a car more affordable like 'Game of Thrones' but pennies: Game of Pennies. To be frank, it's not the funnest job in the world, chiseling pennies — it's like washing the dishes."
12. "We're headed for a wild future, I mean wild, wild, wild. Cars will drive themselves, people will have super helpful, humanoid help robots. I think it will get to this point where it'll be odd not to have a robot buddy, not to have your C-3PO and R2-D2." (Musk was touting Tesla's self-driving cars and Optimus humanoid robots.)

• I've stayed in 5-star hotels around the world, but an amenity on a recent trip surprised me.
• My room at the Balmoral in Edinburgh, Scotland, came with a complimentary power adapter.
• It helped me realize that sometimes, the best amenities are the most simple.

The past few times I've gone overseas, my trip has begun in a frenzy.

Without fail, shortly before I leave for the airport, I remember I need a power adapter. So with my bags already packed, I frantically research what kind of adapter I need and tear through my drawers to find one that will (hopefully) work.

I've always found adapters slightly mystifying. Sometimes, they work; sometimes, they don't. Sometimes, I think I have one that's compatible with a country's outlets, only to find out it won't fit.

So when I checked into the Balmoral in Edinburgh, Scotland, last month, I was thrilled to find one sitting on the desk, awaiting my arrival.

A good hotel anticipates what a traveler will need before they can ask for it

In my time as a travel writer, I've stayed in hotels around the world — from five-star accommodations to airport chains.

I've stayed in hotels with Michelin-starred restaurants and members-only cigar clubs, and yet I found this simple, cheap amenity to be one of the most helpful.

It sounds silly: Wouldn't the best amenity be something a little more… luxurious? Of course, the Balmoral had its share of fancy services. It has a fitness center that would make gym buffs swoon, and a scotch bar with hundreds of whiskeys. These are the things that help a five-star hotel earn its rating.

But I think some of the best hotels are those that predict a traveler's every need.

We've come to expect snacks and drinks in our rooms for when we're feeling peckish or slippers for the morning walk to the shower. It's only natural that this kind of thoughtful treatment should apply to the more granular parts of a hotel stay.

Other hotels should take notes

Having a travel adapter at my disposal felt like one less thing to worry about when I got to Edinburgh. I could charge my phone or start work right away instead of having to head out on a hunt for an adapter (which I have done before).

A spokesperson for the Balmoral told me that the adapters are in every room in the hotel. Guests don't get to keep them, but they're useful during the stay.

The adapter, despite being so simple, was exactly the kind of smart amenity I think every hotel should have — five stars or not.