• I've been with my boyfriend for 12 years and have no plans of getting married. 
• We own a home together and are listed on each other's wills. 
• We are committed to each other, but people think that because we won't marry we are not. 

On a episode of "Abbott Elementary," outspoken teacher Melissa Schemmenti's doting boyfriend Gary heavily hints at planning a wedding proposal, which she insists she doesn't want. She tells him it would take a miracle for her to get married again. Thinking he's found such a miracle, Gary gets Philadelphia Eagles player Jalen Hurts to help him make the proposal.

When she turns him down, he's shocked and devastated, and though she sticks to her principles, she's clearly sad to be disappointing him and losing an otherwise great relationship. As I watched them part ways, I screamed at my TV: You can be in a happy, loving relationship without being married or engaged!

I know because my 12 year relationship is like any other stable, long-term one. My boyfriend and I jointly own a home, are listed in each other's wills, take vacations together, and are waiting to adopt a child. We are as committed to one another as we could be, but to many, what we have doesn't really count.

Marrige is seen as the goal

Even in 2024, marriage is still seen as the ultimate achievement in the game of love. The message that marriage is the endpoint to which all couples, no matter their sexual orientation, should aspire is ubiquitous. Witness the media frenzy about whether Taylor Swift and Travis Kelce are planning to get engaged, as if that act would ensure their relationship's longevity.

On our first date in 2012, Drew charmed me with his sense of humor and outrageous stories. Right away, we were smitten and moved in together a little over a year later. If we'd tied the knot then, I would've been saying "I do" before discovering many things about him that have only deepened my love. I wouldn't have known what it was like to support him through his best friend's death from cancer or how tenderly he treated me after I spent six hours solo in the emergency room during my pandemic miscarriage. I wouldn't have known how much I'd have to rely on his emotional support when I became my mom's caregiver last summer.

Every time I see a social media post with a triumphant woman's hand thrust toward the camera, a diamond engagement ring sparkling, I cringe — not because I don't believe in love, but precisely because I do. Elevating walking down the aisle as a goal turns an expansive emotion into a flashy celebration, as if romance were simply the joining of two personal brands rather than two complex human beings.

I want to celebrate other relationship milestones

What if we celebrated other kinds of relationship milestones, like seeing the other person cry, getting a pet, or figuring out how to make up after a fight and truly mean it? What if we saw marriage as one of many ways of honoring love rather than the only socially sanctioned one?

When we make a single ceremony the apotheosis of something far more nuanced, we miss out on celebrating the more intimate, ever-changing pleasures of love as they deepen. Like the fictional Melissa and Doug, real-life couples also miss out on potential relationships that could bring boundless joy by fixating on hearing wedding bells over beating hearts.

Drew and I have decided that if we're still together in January 2027, we'll hold a 15th anniversary party. This will be a chance for us to be with friends and family to honor the layers of intimacy we've built while recognizing how fragile they are. In the meantime, we'll remake our love, kneading it into new shapes, patterns, and possibilities.

Rachel Kramer Bussel is the editor of over 70 anthologies, including the "Best Women's Erotica of the Year" series, and edits the Substack publication Open Secrets.Visit her website, rachelkramerbussel.com, and follow her on Twitter @raquelita and Instagram @rachelkramerbussel.

• Leah Mancuso lost 200 pounds in two years by adopting healthy eating habits and walking.
• Mancuso shifted from a diet of drive-thrus and freezer food to minimally processed meals.
• Her staple meals include eggs, cottage cheese bowls, sourdough sandwiches, and chicken with potatoes.

When Leah Mancuso started her weight loss journey in March 2022, she started small: eating one nutritious food a day and walking on the spot at home for 10 minutes.

As time went on, Mancuso, 35, based in Scottsdale, Arizona, began building up healthy habits, and two years later, the photographer had lost 200 pounds.

Previously, Mancuso mostly ate drive-thru meals and freezer food because she hated cooking — and still does.

"I try to eat mostly at least minimally processed foods, but also make it very, very easy because I don't like cooking," Mancuso told Business Insider.

So she developed new staple meals like cottage cheese bowls and chicken with potatoes.

"A lot of very simple things, but it felt like I'm eating real foods at least," Mancuso said.

Mancuso's diet shift comes amid increasing awareness of the link between ultra-processed foods and an array of health issues, from weight gain to heart disease, though researchers aren't entirely sure why.

Mancuso shared the easy, staple meals that helped her lose 200 pounds over two years.

1. Eggs

Mancuso's first diet change in March 2022 was eating eggs, which have since become her go-to breakfast, she said.

Her favorite combinations are:

• Eggs scrambled with cheese and cottage cheese, with fruit on the side
• Fried eggs, again with fruit on the side
• Poached eggs on sourdough toast

Eggs are a great source of protein, which helps keep you feeling full, as well as B vitamins, folate, and vitamin A.

2. Cottage cheese bowls

"I've had cottage cheese bowls most days," Mancuso said.

She said she sometimes eats cottage cheese as it is, but other times blends it into a smooth yoghurt-like consistency.

"I add maple syrup to sweeten and also sometimes add a flavored protein powder to add more protein," Mancuso said. "Then I top with granola and fruit."

Cottage cheese is naturally rich in protein and low in calories if you use a fat-free version, and thanks to social media, it's experiencing a renaissance.

3. Open sourdough sandwiches

Mancuso said she's been eating a lot of sourdough bread and enjoys topping slices with combinations such as:

• Salami, goat's cheese, and pesto
• Jam, ham, and goat's cheese
• Tuna mixed with mayonnaise and cottage cheese, with pickles on top

Sourdough bread is rich in nutrients and generally easier to digest than other forms of bread.

4. Chicken strips with potatoes

Healthy eating doesn't mean never using frozen ingredients.

Mancuso is a fan of organic frozen chicken strips. She usually serves them with a potato that she's chopped into pieces, sprayed with avocado oil, and cooked in the air fryer.

Mancuso admits she's not a huge fan of vegetables, but dietitians and nutritionists generally recommend creating plates that are 50% vegetables, 25% protein, and 25% starchy carbs.

5. Sausage and vegetable pasta

Mancuso sometimes uses protein pasta but is also a fan of sourdough noodles, she said.

Mancuso makes pasta dishes with pork or chicken sausages, vegetables such as broccoli, bell peppers, or riced cauliflower, and a sauce such as marinara or pesto blended with cottage cheese.

Mixing cottage cheese with a classic pasta sauce adds more protein and also creates a creamy texture.

Mancuso hasn't cut out all her favorite foods

Mancuso knew that her lifestyle had to be sustainable and achievable to maintain her weight loss, so she didn't try to eliminate all her favorite foods or cook elaborate dishes.

"I also love bacon and will eat it like a meal," Mancuso joked.

But instead of getting takeout on her own, she now only enjoys those less nutritious foods in a social setting.

"I used to spend a lot of time just getting fast food and eating it by myself in my room, and that's just not healthy for us for a lot of reasons," she said. "Instead I decided to enjoy them when I'm with people and with community."

• Wombo AI is an app that makes generative images of celebrities. 
• It's gone viral for making images of Donald Trump, Drake, and Travis Kelce — with pregnant bellies
• Yes, this very stupid. So what?

What is it about a slightly crummy AI-generated video of Donald Trump and Joe Biden discussing hardcore bands that is incredibly hilarious, while Apple's new AI forced-whimsy "Genmoji" just … isn't?

The more advanced generative AI gets, somehow … the stupider stuff makes us laugh more. Interesting, no?

Almost exactly a year ago, Max Read wrote about how AI is good for "funposting" (I imagine this term started as something not appropriate for a family newspaper). Read looked at some of the early AI things that had delighted us: the pope in a puffer coat and Will Smith eating spaghetti. Those things were so amusing because they had the right placement on a matrix of human stupidity vs. machine intelligence: making the smart machine do something very stupid.

These "high human stupidity/high machine intelligence" jokes are the sweet spot, although there is also room for "high human stupidity/low machine intelligence" jokes, too. The best recent example of this would be the bad Google AI search result answers that went viral, telling people to eat 1-2 rocks per day or put glue in their pizza.

A year is a long time in AI, and I was curious if Read's analysis of what made for a funny AI joke had significantly changed. Will Smith eating spaghetti, for example, is no longer weird and uncanny — it actually looks decent now.

The fact that generative AI is much "better" than a year ago, however, hasn't stopped AI from being funny. In fact, it's made it easier to do stupid, silly things.

This explains why recently, my Instagram keeps serving me viral videos of pregnant male celebrities, like this:

(I highly recommend you also play the video to listen to the AI-generated song.)

Wombo AI started in 2021 making consumer-facing apps that generated silly, memey, social media-ready images.

Their current app, Celeb Shot (which will be renamed Wombo soon) specializes in letting you add your own face to various photos with celebrities, or doing other things like making you look like a baby or have huge muscles.

Wombo's founder, Ben-Zion Benkhin, told me that they had stumbled into this new virality.

He came across an image of Snape pregnant and was inspired to try something new (male pregnancy, or "mpreg," in fan fiction is a fairly common trope — Snape in particular for some reason). "We're always experimenting with shit and trying to make stuff go viral," Benkhin said.

Indeed, they saw a big increase in shares on the Instagram and TikTok posts with these mpreg videos — which led to more downloads of their app. Making silly stupid stuff is good for business. (An update of the app that will allow users to put a photo of themselves proudly cradling a pregnant Trump or Drake will be out soon.)

I'm not sure what "mpreg Travis Kelce is going viral" means for the future — of AI or humanity. I do think that some of this stupid stuff is a coping mechanism for the more scary parts of AI. Sure, AI might kill us all one day, but at least we had some good memes.

• More recent college graduates are struggling to find jobs, and it could set them back for years. 
• The unemployment of recent graduates has been higher than the overall unemployment rate since 2021.
• Some graduates could eventually question whether their college degrees were worth it. 

When Lohanny Santos couldn't find a job, she started handing out resumes in person.

"This is not what I expected," the Gen Zer, who has a degree in communication and media studies, said in a January TikTok video.

Santos isn't alone. New college graduates are having a harder time finding work, and as a result, some of them could see their careers and earnings take a hit for years.

Every month since January 2021, the unemployment rate of "recent college graduates" between the ages of 22 and 27 has been higher than the overall US unemployment rate, according to New York Fed data. Meaning that recent college graduates have been more likely to be unemployed than the broader population.

This isn't normal. Between 1990 and 2013, the recent grad jobless rate was never higher than the overall unemployment rate.

Last November, the recent graduate unemployment rate was 5% compared to the 3.7% overall rate — the most the recent grad rate has exceeded the overall rate in the over three decades of NY Fed data. Excluding 2020 and 2021 — when the pandemic took a toll on the job market — the 5% jobless rate for recent graduates was the highest since March 2015. As of the most recent March data, the jobless rate for recent grads was 4.7%, compared to the 3.7% rate for all workers.

Internships aren't leading to job offers, start dates are being pushed back as much as a year, and applicants are competing for a limited number of jobs. Hiring cutbacks in popular industries like tech, finance, and consulting are working against new graduates. For instance, Meta — among the top employers for Rice University's graduates in 2022 — didn't hire any graduates last year, Bloomberg reported.

However, the hiring slowdown is bigger than these three industries. As of March, hiring on LinkedIn was down compared to the prior year in each of the 20 industries measured, including education, construction, and healthcare. A National Association of Colleges and Employers survey of 226 employers across several industries conducted this past spring found that employers collectively planned to hire nearly 6% fewer new college graduates than they did the previous year.

This bumpy start to new grads' careers could have a lasting impact on their earnings.

For one, some of them could end up taking jobs in lower-paying fields outside their area of study. Per the NY Fed, about 41% of recent graduates were "underemployed" as of March — meaning they had jobs that typically don't require a college degree. What's more, a report published in February by the data research firms Burning Glass Institute and the Strada Education Foundation found that nearly three-quarters of people who don't land college-level jobs in their first year after graduating end up stuck in a job they're overqualified for 10 years later.

Additionally, researchers have found that young people who graduate into challenging job markets can see their earnings negatively impacted for at least a decade — the struggles of millennials who started their careers during the Great Recession have been well documented. While Gen Zers aren't graduating during a recession, some of them could face similar hurdles to the generation before them.

The slowing job market is hitting recent graduates the hardest

While layoffs remain low, and the US continues to add hundreds of thousands of jobs each month, the labor market isn't quite as hot as it was a few years ago. Job openings have fallen from the record levels reached in 2022, businesses are hiring less, and as a result, workers aren't switching jobs at the same rate they did during the Great Resignation.

"It's the new normal where employers are slower to fire, slower to hire, and workers are slower to switch jobs," Julia Pollak, the chief economist for ZipRecruiter, previously told Business Insider.

This new normal has worked out OK for some Americans, but it's been particularly tough on new college graduates.

In an economy where hiring and job-switching are slowing, a lot of workers are effectively stuck in place. The young workers who might have switched jobs — and effectively created a new entry-level job opening for someone else — have had a harder time doing so. At the same time, the young workers who might have gotten a promotion — and then been replaced by a new entry-level hire — aren't getting those promotions at the rate they did a year or two ago.

If you already have a job, you can keep collecting paychecks and cross your fingers that layoffs don't pick up. But if you don't, you're in a tougher spot.

The current labor market is leaving some recent grads with few paths into the workforce, and the jobs that are out there have become more competitive. It's even tougher if you want a remote role.

Americans seem to sense that it's not the best time to job hunt. A monthly New York Fed survey asks respondents to estimate the chance that, if they lost their job today, they'd be able to find a new job they would accept in the next three months. As of the recently released May data, the average probability was about 52%. While this was higher than the April and March figures, it was lower than any month between January 2015 and March 2020 — when the pandemic caused job-finding expectations to temporarily plummet.

However, in reality, it's not taking most unemployed Americans considerably longer to find work than it did a year or two ago. It's the newest members of the labor force — many of them recent college grads — who are having a harder time.

A Goldman Sachs report published in May found that "experienced" US workers who became unemployed over the past year have continued to find new jobs "at or above pre-pandemic rates." However, "new entrants" to the labor market who've entered unemployment have found jobs at considerably lower rates than they did two years ago and before the pandemic.

"The labor market remains strong overall, though with some soft spots, most notably the low hiring rate, whose impact falls most heavily on new entrants to the workforce," Goldman Sachs economist Elise Peng wrote in the report.

Job search struggles could lead some graduates to question the value of their degree

To be sure, many of the new college graduates who are struggling to find work will likely eventually find employment. When including college graduates of all ages, this group has a lower unemployment rate than the average worker, and the average college graduate still earns considerably more than workers without a degree.

While the tough job market could temporarily hurt some young graduates' earnings, there's reason to be optimistic that their finances could eventually recover. That's because some of the millennials who were impacted by the Great Recession early in their careers are now faring much better financially.

A Federal Reserve paper published in January found that, as of 2022, the inflation-adjusted household income of US millennials between the ages of 36 and 40 was 18% higher than that of the previous generation at the same age. Between the end of 2019 and 2023, millennials' wealth doubled, due in part to rising home values and stock prices.

In the years ahead, the more important question might not be whether college graduates can find jobs — but whether their college degrees are worth it. High college tuition costs have forced many students to take on student debt that can follow them for decades and stall their savings efforts. Additionally, more companies have become open to hiring candidates who don't have a college degree.

St. Louis Fed research published in 2019 found that the boost a college degree provides to one's income and wealth has declined over the past several decades.

Most new graduates may be quite a ways away from saying they regret going to college. But if the job market continues to prove frustrating, some of them may begin to wonder.

Are you a recent college graduate who's struggling to find a job? Are you willing to share your story? If so, contact this reporter at jzinkula@businessinsider.com.

• The average age of American millionaires has risen to 61 as of 2022, up from 57 in 1992.
• Younger workers struggle to amass wealth, leading to increased reliance on inheritances.
• Boomers' wealth accumulation is impacting economic factors like consumer spending and housing.

America's millionaires are getting older.

While it makes sense that time is often a crucial ingredient to accruing savings and assets, the average age of millionaires in the US has been rising faster than the average age of the overall population over the last three decades.

It's the age of geriatric millionaires, and it might point to overlapping issues: Younger workers can't amass wealth at the same rate they used to, and increasingly, the way to ascend to the ranks of the wealthy is to receive inheritances.

"Multi-generational wealth is doing fine, but first-generation people who are not on the wealth train are having a harder time getting on," Chuck Collins, the director of the program on inequality and co-editor of inequality.org at the left-leaning Institute for Policy Studies, told Business Insider.

That's bad news for the American dream of hitting it big as a self-made entrepreneur. According to Forbes, a third of the people on its latest billionaire list inherited all or most of their wealth; in its 2001 ranking, just five out of the 490 ranked billionaires were listed as having inherited their wealth. And in many cases, those individuals are inheriting that wealth much later in life.

"The millionaires are aging and they're not passing that wealth down the generational line or they're passing it on much later in life. Even the recipients are old," Collins said said.

These forces are combining to concentrate an increasing share of wealth in the hands of America's octogenarians. It could spell trouble for the economy — and see even more power wielded by a cohort that might not be here to see how it plays out.

How millionaires are changing

Since 1992, the average age of the country's millionaires has been going up. We looked at Survey of Consumer Finances data for Americans with net worths of $1 million or over in 2022 dollars, and compared their demographics from 2022 — the most recent year we have data for — and 1992.

In 1992, the average millionaire was around 57 years old. By 2022, the average millionaire was around 61 years old. That means that younger millionaires aren't joining their ranks fast enough to keep the average age steady.

Of course, some of that can be chalked up to aging populations. After all, the US has been getting older, and geriatric Americans are holding more power than ever before. So, to parse out how millionaires stack up to the rest of the population, we looked at age breakdowns in both 1992 and 2022.

Here's what the general population — and millionaires — looked like in 1992. Millionaires are overrepresented beginning around age 50, but track pretty cleanly with the cohort in their 40's.

Comparatively, millionaires were more overrepresented in the 60+ cohort as of 2022.

In addition to millionaires with net worths of more than $1 million, Americans who make an annual salary of $1 million are also skewing older.

Garrett Watson, a senior policy analyst at the Tax Foundation, analyzed IRS SOI data and found that in 2011, about 59,500 Americans 65 and over reported earning over $1 million; as of 2021, that's nearly quadrupled, with just under 218,500 Americans 65 and older earning over $1 million.

"We are collecting a good portion of our tax revenue from these folks — the older folks who typically are higher income or higher net worth who tend to have higher incomes — which is good; that obviously underscores the progressivity of the system," Watson said. "At the same time, we do have a lot of provisions in our fiscal system that benefit these folks."

What does it mean to have so many older millionaires?

Of course, that doesn't mean the picture is completely bleak for younger Americans. Pandemic stimulus, coupled with an unprecedented labor market, real estate, and stock gains, has meant that millennials across the income spectrum were able to double their wealth from 2019 to 2023.

According to our Business Insider's analysis, 9.8% of millionaires are 35 to 44 years old. That's a respectable chunk of 30-somethings and 40-somethings who can claim millionaire status. Meanwhile, around 19% of millionaires are 45 to 54 years old.

Still, the average net worth for millennials sits at around $128,000 compared to around $1.2 million for baby boomers, and many millennials do not feel financially secure amid high housing costs and student loan debt loads.

Gen Xers are dealing with their own economic precarity meanwhile. They hold the most liabilities out of any generation, and are spending the most on housing and shelter out of all cohorts. Gen Xers are also the first generation to contend with overlapping retirement crises, as they've been left to pick up the bill for their retirement years and might also face reduced Social Security. Both generations have dealt with wages that haven't kept pace with productivity.

The growing accumulation of wealth in older hands impacts consumer spending, employment, housing, and more.

The boomer generation holds half of the combined net worth in the US, and was behind 22% of all spending in 2022, according to the Labor Department's September survey of consumer expenditures.

That's propped up consumer spending, even as the savings rate has dropped and inflation has remained stubbornly high. It's also impacted the labor market, with jobs that cater to the boomers taking off.

"Thanks to all the retired and retiring seniors, spending on air transportation, hotels & motels, food, and health care services all have been soaring to new or near record highs," veteran market strategist Ed Yardeni wrote earlier this year. "That's because seniors are traveling more, dining out more, and visiting their health care providers more. As a result, payroll employment in all these industries continues to rise to record highs."

And boomers aren't just living it up on vacation. They're also holding onto some of their largest and most valuable assets: Big homes.

A growing number of baby boomers are keeping their large homes for longer, constraining the supply available for younger families. Analysis of US Census data by Redfin found that 28% of homes across the US with three or more bedrooms are owned by empty nesters between 60 and 78 years old. That's double the percentage of millennials with children who own similarly sized homes.

Lastly, the age of geriatric millionaires has the potential to create what Chuck Collins at the Institute for Policy Studies called the "King Charles effect," referring to King Charles III of the United Kingdom, who ascended the throne at the age of 73.

"Instead of 60-year-olds giving to 30-year-olds, it's going to be 90-year-olds giving to 60-year-olds — meaning that because these wealthy folks are holding onto wealth longer, that intergenerational wealth transfer that we've all heard about is later in life for a lot of people," Collins said.

"It's very different to inherit a couple million dollars when you're in your twenties than it is in your sixties. You've already made a lot of decisions in your life."

• Taiwan recently unveiled a kamikaze boat many times larger than Ukraine's successful drones.
• Naval drones will be key if Taiwan hopes to defeat a Chinese invasion.
• It can succeed by showing China that a battle for Taiwan is simply too bloody and risky.

Taking a cue from Ukraine's use of naval drones to offset a superior Russian fleet, Taiwan has unveiled a much larger unmanned kamikaze boat that could devastate a Chinese amphibious force.

Taiwanese media describe a 20-ton robot vessel that's 55-feet-long, 12-feet-wide, and with a draft of about 3 feet. "The vessel's top speed exceeds 30 knots (55.56 km/h), and it can cover a range of over 300 miles (555.6 km) with a fuel capacity of 1,300 liters," according to Taiwan's Liberty Times newspaper. "What's remarkable is its ability to navigate autonomously, even without GPS or communication equipment, thanks to its advanced onboard computer systems. Its potential military applications range from mine clearance and minesweeping to suicide missions."

The unmanned surface vessel, or USV, was revealed June 2 while Taiwanese leaders attended the shipyard christening of a new frigate and other manned vessels. Photographs show a low, streamlined black boat with bright orange stripes.

The USV has been a "universal test platform," and Taiwanese officials have not said whether this design will stay experimental or go into mass production to create a horde of robot explosive boats. But if not this one, Taiwan will certainly field some kind of unmanned attack boat to try to stop a Chinese invasion or blockade.

US officials have already spoken of a "hellscape" strategy that would use drones to turn the Taiwan Straits into a graveyard. Exactly what this entails is classified. But Adm. Samuel Paparo, chief of US Indo-Pacific Command, told a Washington Post reporter last month that "as soon as China's invasion fleet begins moving across the 100-mile waterway that separates China and Taiwan, the US military would deploy thousands of unmanned submarines, unmanned surface ships and aerial drones to flood the area and give Taiwanese, US and partner forces time to mount a full response."

"I want to turn the Taiwan Strait into an unmanned hellscape using a number of classified capabilities," Paparo said. "So that I can make their lives utterly miserable for a month, which buys me the time for the rest of everything."

The threat to attack a Chinese invasion force right away may not be achievable, however. In May, China's military surrounded Taiwan and practiced attack drills, the kind of large-scale exercise that could become cover for a military operation like a beach assault.

Taiwan may have better luck in the water than in the air. Taiwan's attempt to develop a medium-altitude, long-endurance drone — along the lines of the US MQ-9 Reaper — has run into developmental difficulties. The unmanned aircraft has yet to pass its combat readiness test, leading Taiwan to order more American-made MQ-9B SeaGuardians, a maritime version of the Reaper.

Both Taiwan and America are looking to what has become the gold standard in naval drone warfare: Ukraine's campaign in the Black Sea. Vastly outnumbered and outgunned by Russia's navy, and with a long coastline to defend, Ukraine could have been bled white trying to defend against Russian amphibious invasions and coastal bombardment.

Instead, Russia's Black Sea Fleet has retreated from Ukrainian waters. In part this is because of land-based anti-ship missiles such as the Neptune, which sank the cruiser and Black Sea Fleet flagship Moskva in 2022. But mostly it's because of robot boats that have relentlessly stalked Russian warships on the sea and even in port. In November 2023, for example, Ukrainian Magura sea drones sank or damaged two Russian landing craft and a missile corvette docked in Crimean ports and shipyards.

The Magura appears to be much smaller than the Taiwanese USV, at about 18 feet long. It weighs about a ton, can carry a 400-pound warhead, and had a range of 500 miles, with batteries sufficient for 60 hours of operation.

This is a classic case of asymmetric warfare: though vastly outnumbered in conventional military resources, Ukraine turned to cheap alternatives that could be manufactured by its own domestic arms industry and exploited the enemy fleet's vulnerability.

Taiwan faces a similar dilemma. With a population of just 24 million compared to China's 1.4 billion, and vastly less resources and manufacturing capacity, Taiwan probably can't prevail in a straight-up naval battle with Chinese naval, air and missile forces, not even with the help of allies Japan and the US.

But it doesn't have to win. It can succeed by showing China that a battle for Taiwan is simply too bloody and fraught with risk. Taiwan would need to sink or damage enough transport vessels that near the island to make a beach landing or blockade untenable. With insufficient troops, heavy weapons and supplies ashore, the beachhead would be vulnerable to being swept into the sea by a Taiwanese counterattack.

Similarly, enough kamikaze drones could force China's large fleet farther off-shore in hopes of creating openings for air drops of supplies from Taiwan's allies. Even then, China may have the sheer fleet size to strangle Taiwan.

This shows that drones will be an essential and low-cost way to stave off China.

Michael Peck is a defense writer whose work has appeared in Forbes, Defense News, Foreign Policy magazine, and other publications. He holds an MA in political science from Rutgers Univ. Follow him on Twitter and LinkedIn.

• Amit Musaei, who survived the Nova Festival Hamas terror attack, now leads tours to the site.
• BI spoke to four Israeli tour guides who say October 7 tours are the only ones in demand now.
• They say it's emotionally draining, but they need to support their families financially.

Amit Musaei survived the Nova Festival terror attack in Israel late last year.

Now, months later, he's leading tours to the site where he narrowly escaped death, and where he lost three of his closest friends.

Musaei returns to the scene of his trauma at least three times a week, leaving him emotionally exhausted, all to earn a few hundred dollars a time to cover his mortgage, provide for his two kids, and support his friends' orphans.

"I'm in a situation where I need to make a living," he told Business Insider. "I need to support my family. I was unemployed for over six months."

On October 7, 2023, over a thousand people, mostly civilians, were killed in Hamas attacks on Israel, with the Nova musical festival being the site of the highest number of casualties.

Israel retaliated against Gaza, which, according to the UN, has led to more than 35,000 Palestinian deaths.

As a result, many tourists called off vacations and major airlines scrapped flights to Israel, ultimately leaving Musaei and other tour guides like him without an income.

Musaei says two years of pre-booked tours were canceled, and that he now tries to make ends meet by leading the small trickle of visitors to the sites of the October 7 atrocities.

BI talked to four tour guides, who said this form of dark tourism is their only means to make a living.

It takes a toll, but they feel they have few other choices.

Danny Herman, who runs "Danny The Digger" tours, said he was recently hospitalized for high blood pressure, which he attributes to the emotional stress of repeatedly visiting the "death sites."

"I had no desire to go see them," he told BI. "But I did it as I realized that if I want to earn a living, this is the only product right now in some demand."

For years, Herman gave tours of the Dead Sea, Jerusalem, and other religious and archeological sites.

He said demand for these tours has practically dropped to zero, but he's fully booked for the next week with tours to the Gaza Envelope — the parts of Israel within about four miles of the Gaza Strip border.

"The last thing I thought I would be doing is these types of tours, which I call 'Holocaust tours,'" he said. "It's like going to Auschwitz or Yad Vashem, and it's something that I didn't think I would do, and I wish I wouldn't have to do."

Herman said that tourists mostly want to bear witness to history, pay their respects, and maybe even volunteer.

However, he noted that there's no avoiding the grim reality, be it roadside memorials to those who died, the sound of artillery fire in the distance, tanks rolling by, or the sight of smoke rising over Gaza.

Ari Melnik, another tour guide, said that for some tourists, that's a draw.

"Some people would freak out if I told them there's bombing going on, and some people want to hear that," he told BI.

Melnik added, "Then, if they don't hear that, maybe they're disappointed."

While Melnik said he feels comfortable taking tourists to the area bordering Gaza and educating them on recent events, he is uncomfortable with certain facets of the tours.

He said he's unsure how to respectfully show people the kibbutzim, with their burned-out houses and cars, conscious that victims don't want their community to become "a zoo."

"It's not a question of if to go there; it's a question of how to go there," he said.

Another source of discomfort, he said, is how much to charge.

Though Melnik said he's been hemorrhaging money for months, he lets those on the tour decide how much to pay.

"I have been flexible because I haven't even felt sure I feel comfortable charging money for this," he said.

Another tour guide, Slava Bazarsky, solicits donations to the local kibbutzim while charging a participation fee.

He'd rather not charge, but he said he has no choice.

"In order to survive, you have to do something," he told BI.

He added: "Whether you like it or not, you have family, you have kids. It's uncomfortable, unpleasant, and hard, but you have to do it."

Even after pivoting, he says his business is still struggling.

Bazarsky said he has "barely 10%" of the bookings for tours he had this time last year.

Bazarsky said that even if there were more demand and more tourists, he'd have to limit the number of tours he gives because it would be too traumatic to do too regularly.

But for Musaei, the survivor-turned-tour guide, going several times a week has given him unexpected solace.

"It's therapy for me to overcome my trauma," he said. "Every time I share my story, it's another opportunity to process it."

• Costa Rica's Nicoya Peninsula is one of the world's blue zones, where residents live longer.
• I tried the Costa Rican diet for about two weeks and saw big differences to meals in the US.
• Here are three ways to bring elements of the Blue Zone diet back home.

Last month, as I explored Costa Rica's Pacific coast, I took particular care to visit the Blue Zone of the Nicoya Penninsula.

I'd heard the residents there live longer, healthier lives than the global average, and I wanted to find out what made that little stretch of the Central American coast so special.

Part of the key is the gorgeous weather, where temperatures rarely fall below 70°F year-round, strong social connections to the local community, and plenty of daily movement — though not much vigorous exercise. But there are also clear differences in the local diet here compared to both elsewhere in the country and around the world.

Here are three ways I've brought elements of the Costa Rican Blue Zone diet back home.

Eat more fruit

Fruit is abundant in Central America, with fresh produce including watermelon, cantaloupe, pineapple, and mango served at nearly every meal.

It's also a common mid-morning or afternoon snack to quickly boost energy levels and refresh yourself in the jungle heat.

Fresh smoothies are also common throughout the country and make it easy to feel full without a heavy meal weighing you down.

I already try to keep a bowl of cut fruit in the fridge for easy enjoyment, but my travels in Costa Rica reminded me to go beyond my staples of berries and bananas. While I can't get the same quality pineapple, even in sunny southern California, having some regularly can bring a little pura vida back home.

Prioritize fish and chicken for protein

During nearly two weeks of traversing the country, we had to intentionally seek out red meat if we wanted it.

In Costa Rica, locals prioritize fresh fish and chicken if they have a meal with protein — and, often, protein isn't the star of the dish.

Nearly every sit-down restaurant or small open-air cafe (called a soda) we visited offered fresh ceviche served with smashed, lightly fried plantains called patacones. Other mains often included whole roasted fish or shredded, marinated chicken with rice and beans.

It makes sense why lean meats would be a staple of longevity-focused diets. Numerous studies have linked red meat with earlier deaths and several types of cancer — especially colon cancer.

Allow simple, balanced ingredients to shine

A typical Costa Rican breakfast includes a traditional dish of rice and beans called gallo pinto, fresh fruit, and simple proteins like eggs or, occasionally, pork or chicken sausage, or shredded chicken.

For lunch, ceviche with patacones or a grab-and-go chicken and vegetable empanada would be common.

Dinners, such as roasted fish and basic salads with rice, are simple and light but fulfilling.

The thing they all have in common? A focus on simple, balanced meals made of lean proteins and fresh produce. It's old wisdom, but there's a reason this advice has stood the test of time.

In Costa Rica, fad diets — from carnivore to intermittent fasting — don't have the same pull as in the US. The tried-and-true formula of whole foods is part of why people in the Nicoya region live so long, and it became tried-and-true for a reason.

• Trooping the Colour 2024 will take place in London on Saturday.
• The annual military parade serves as King Charles III's official birthday celebration. 
• The royal family will gather on the balcony of Buckingham Palace to mark the occasion.

King Charles III was born on November 14, 1948, so you likely wouldn't expect him to be thinking about his birthday in the summer.

But thousands will celebrate the king's birthday in the UK on Saturday at one of the biggest royal events of the year: Trooping the Colour.

According to the royal family's website, Trooping the Colour has been the British sovereign's official birthday celebration for over 260 years.

The event is marked with a parade and massive fanfare in June each year.

Trooping the Colour is the monarch's official birthday celebration

The annual celebration occurs in the summer, regardless of when the reigning monarch's actual birthday is.

The royal family's website notes that the chance of the weather being suitable for outdoor activities is higher in May or June. Considering much of the event takes place outside, scheduling it for the summer is easier. Nowadays, the event typically takes place on a Saturday in June.

According to History, King George II was the first monarch to move his birthday pageantry to the summer, as he was born in October, but he combined his official celebration with a summer military parade in 1748.

The monarch's actual birthday is publicly acknowledged with a royal gun salute, but the sovereign typically celebrates privately otherwise.

A military parade is the centerpiece of the event

During Trooping the Colour, a parade of royals and military personnel travels from Buckingham Palace to the Horse Guards Parade at Whitehall in London.

The royal family's website states that the parade includes over 1,400 soldiers, 400 musicians, and 200 horses, and the royals typically ride on horseback or in carriages.

The monarch can participate in the event from either carriage or horseback. According to the BBC, Queen Elizabeth II rode a horse during the parade until 1987.

Once the parade reaches Whitehall, the monarch formally inspects the troops during the ceremony.

Likewise, the chosen Regimental Colour, or flag, is carried through the ranks of participating soldiers before they march back to Buckingham Palace.

Thousands of onlookers cheer on the participants as they process.

According to an FOIA request to the Ministry of Defence, the 2021 Trooping the Colour cost 59,662 pounds, which would be approximately $75,604 today. That total includes stable costs, transportation, and fuel, among other fees, though it does not factor in the cost of the police presence required to keep the event safe for the royals and attendees.

Trooping the Colour brings the royal family together at Buckingham Palace

Trooping the Colour culminates in a flypast by RAF pilots over Buckingham Palace.

The flyover is arguably the most iconic moment of the event, as the royal family watches the planes go by from Buckingham Palace's balcony.

Trooping the Colour marks one of the few times a year the royal family gathers in one place, so they are always heavily photographed when they appear on the balcony.

The occasion offers a chance to see how royals interact with each other, with people analyzing shots of Princess Diana and Prince Harry in years past.

Likewise, royal children often steal the show when they appear at Buckingham Palace for the event.

King Charles is set to appear at Trooping the Colour in 2024 despite continuing his cancer treatment. On Monday, he reviewed the Irish Guards in preparation for the event.

However, People reported the king will ride in a carriage at the 2024 event instead of on horseback. Queen Camilla will accompany him.

Kate Middleton did not participate in the Colonel's Review, a dress rehearsal for Trooping the Colour that she would typically oversee as Colonel of the Irish Guards.

However, on Friday, Kate confirmed she would be attending this year's Trooping the Colour, marking her first event since announcing her cancer diagnosis.